Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Defining Moments

We all have encountered times in our lives that change us forever, that defineus. We learn lessons on our way that help us as we get older and further along and can pass along to other who are where we've been. Life is the journey and heaven is our destination. Lessons we learn here are meant to help us along the way.

What happens when the lessons aren't clear and not like a billboard on the highway. What if we are in a battle that there doesn't seem to any reason for? What about the moments when God seems so far away and has stopped caring about us?

My friend, sometimes we will face battles that we don't know why we are fighting until after the battle is won. God never puts us in a battle just to make us suffer. Quite the contrary, God puts us through battles so we can learn and grow, to be more like Him. He puts us through battles because He has something better for us after the battle.

The Bible tells us that God is the same yesterday, today and forever. We sometimes in the middle of the battle think that God has stopped loving us and stopped caring. Yet, He is loves us and cares about us just the same! He is closer in the moments then ever and cries with us and for us. We are the ones who have changed and became different, not God.

I didn't understand many things in the middle of the battle. I didn't understand why God gave me Turner Syndrome and gave me Tourettes Syndrome and Pseudo Seizures. But as I have gotten older and have fault and won my battles why God put me it. In High School, I was able to lead another student into a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and see him baptised at my church that summer. I was able to talk another girl out of committing suicide by telling her about my battle with depression and being suicidal and about how my Grandfather's suicide affected me and my entire family.

God also puts obstacles in our way to show us how much He loves us by being with us. Hard times help draw us closer to Him then the good times. God desperately wants us to have a strong personal relationship with Him. He loves us sooooooooo much that He'll do whatever it takes. Don't lose hard my dear friend. Just because you don't know why doesn't mean God isn't working or knows what he is doing. When He seems so far you can't feel Him anymore, He is closer to you then ever before and carrying you higher. He will leave you or forsake you. He will never stop loving you!

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

A God BIGGER Then Depression

This is going to be a real personal blog but that's what blogs are for right? This is for of you out there who need a little "pick me up." This is one is for those of you who are going through trying times- no matter what it is or where you are in your walk with the Lord. It's also for those of who like me have gotten to the side as a gentle reminder to keep going!

I was diagnosed with clinical depression when I was 14. The trigger point for me was the summer of 2003 after I just turned 14. My brother, Matthew, has just graduated from Mount Vernon Nazarene University with a Bachelors degree in religion. He proposed to his girlfriend the day after my birthday. The Tuesday after graduation, she called Matthew at our house. I remember when that phone came in, I was just in the lazy boy reading my Bible. A few days later I found out she broke up with Matthew and that she told him she didn't want to marry him because of me. That summer I became VERY withdrawn. I was in my room most of the time and became very angry and bitter. I didn't trust anyone and felt I didn't deserve anyone to love me.

In September that all manifested into tics which would\ develop into Tourettes and Pseudo Seizures. I couldn't attend school regularly and was almost kept in 8th grade missing over 60 days of school and missing several major assignments. My teachers would also really modify assignments for me and most of them were different from the other students so I wasn't where I needed to be academically. My Dr's didn't know what was wrong with me. They ran test after test. Dr's appointments usually consisted of me banging my head on the way and saying how I wanted to kill myself. They referred me to the Head Phychatrist Children's Hospital and he told my parents I was the most depressed kid he had ever deal with in over 30 yrs.

With his help and also finally the diagnoses of Tourettes Syndrome and Pseudo Seizures I got a lot better. I got onto the other side of depression. I forgave her for what she did and forgave myself. I got right with God and learned to trust others again and allow them to love me. The recover was not instant at all. In fact, I don't think I really fully recovered until after High School.

Know matter how hard the situation that you may be in, DON'T lost heart. Remember God is bigger then any problem you face or will face. God is on your side, friend. When you fall He will be there to pick you up. Nothing can take His eyes on you! He loves for you is obsessive. He can't stop thinking about you! He is sooooooooo proud of you and wants nothing but the best for you!

Sunday, October 24, 2010

Getting Past The Lies

What we will be talking about may seem to you to be something that is geared to teens girls but that simply is not the case. This is something that carries on to adulthood. We are going to talk about the lies society tells us everyday. Here are just some of the lies that society tells us.

1. "You aren't good enough."
2. "You can't do it."
3. "You will never look the way you want to."
4. "You don't do anything right."

Satin loves to use other people to hurt us. He will do anything to make us feel bad ourselves. When we don't like ourselves, how can we be all God made us to be? We can combat the lies though! We need to shift our focus on what God thinks about us and not what other people think. All too often we place our confidence in the hands of other people rather then God. I know I have done this in my own life.

What we forget and hardly think about is that God MADE us, He formed us in our mother's womb. He had all our days laid out before we took our first breath. He knows everything about us and loves us just the same. When we realize this truth and BELIEVE it, everything changes. It becomes more about God and less about us.

Here are some simple things you can do help you not give into the lies.

Read the follow passages and verses in your Bible.

. Psalm 139
. Jeremiah 29:11-13
. 1 Samuel 16:7

Look in the mirror every morning and say one thing that God thinks about you. Say something positive, speak it out so it will stick with you.

Be around people who love and care about you. Don't be around difficult people who to hurt you.

I have a challenge for you this week. We need to help each other do this. We can't do it on our own. We all know people who need God's love shown to them and need help to see how special they are. This week, I encourage you if you know someone who may need a helping hand, send them a card saying you are there for them. Please refrain from doing this by email. It will mean so much being handwritten and be more effective. If you know more then one person "adopt" a person a week who needs a hand.

We can do this, my friend! We can rise above the lies that Satin and the world tell us. It's not easy but we have God on our side. If God is on our side who can be against us? We need to fix our eyes not the world but on God and when we do, that my friends, is when everything changes and where true freedoms begins because we place our identity sorely on Christ.

Sunday, October 17, 2010

Open Hearted VS Closed Hearted

I am going to start this blog by asking you a question. It is an important question so I hope you think about honestly and even take it up with God after reading this blog and pray about it. Here it is..... How open are you to what God wants to do in your life? Do you have faith that God is going to what is best OR are you trying to battle things that aren't yours. Have you let God handle the battle that you don't need to handle?

I learned a lesson this past week that changed my life forever. I learned the power of faith and what it can do it our lives. I learned that we all to often fight battles that aren't even our owns. I learned that God is the one who will ALWAYS meets our needs. I learned he is going to behind the scenes.

My family had I have just won a 4 yr battle to get me SSI. I had a hearing schedule for Oct 21st. While last week I found out that the court threw out my claim and I won. I had faith and peace that God was going to something big. I knew He was. I didn't know how much He was working behind the scenes on my behalf. I was scared even though I had faith. I was having meltdowns and panics over something that turned out wasn't even going to be!!!!!

The power of faith is something so amazing. Faith is also a choice. We have to chose to leave behind our human reasoning and choose to believe in God and His plan for us. We need to choose to leave the battle to God. We don't have to fight it.

I know it makes sense to leave the battle to God, but you would not believe how many Christians fight battles that we don't need to fight!! It is so sad. We live our lives in bondage just by simply not having enough faith to let God take care of us and fight our battles. We rob ourselves of the Spirit filled life He calls us. We are free prisoners basically. We are free because we received Him as Lord of our lives and yet prisoners because we don't have enough faith.

My challenge for you (and I) is to learn to develop the kind of faith that allows God to work in our lives. He wants to but when we hold back on His best there isn't much He can do for us. It is when we give God enough faith and "room" that He is able to work on our lives.

Are you ready to step out in faith TODAY? You don't have to do this on your own! God loves you so much. He will never leave you or forsake you. He wants to do something wonderful in your life. His plans for you are so beautiful.

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

Set Free To Hope

I am going to be doing a series these next couple of weeks about how we are free and why we are free- free to hope, free to love, free to pray and free to live (really live) We are going to start with how we are free to hope.

Hope is something we always have but we become blind to things that bog us down that we can't see it. We can also place our hope in the wrong things. things that are temporary. For example, we can have hope in our job and become almost dependent on it to make us feel good and if we lose it unexpectedly then we feel we lost all hope. We place hope in money- that if we have enough it will give us our basic needs and more. Our hope is not in us and what we can do. Hope is only found in God and what He can do. That is why hope is all about. We don't have to do it alone or have all the answers.

Just this week, we had a tragedy stike us in Columbus. It is affected a whole community. A father killed his 2 young sons- only 8 and 6 before taking his only life. The same thing happened last year here in December when a dad killed his 2 girls 15 and 11 before taking his only like. On Sunday night when the wife/mother came home, she found her family dead- her husband and 2 little boys. He wrote a letter saying he wanted to protect the boys from the misery that he has lived with. This is how destructive depression and the feeling of hopelessness can be.

Hopelessness is just a feeling. There is always hope. I know what's like to be what seems a hopeless situation and I also know how to come out of it. In a way I am going through it through right now. I know I'll come through it victoriously and the fustrastion and even anger I have will one day really soon will go away- when I least except it to. I have faith that God is going to something big, something wonderful. I just have to keep going and cross the finish line on my part, give God the baton and let Him do the rest.

So, why can we have hope? We can have hope because God says He will never leave us or forsake us. We have hope in His abundant and obsessive love for us. We have hope in the Cross and the blood Jesus shed for us. We have hope in being His child. and being able to talk to him anytime of day about anything. I don't know what you are going through right now but God does. He desperately wants to your hand and comfort you. He feels every tear you cry and it makes Him sad, He loves you and know what you need and what you want. You are free to hope.

Sunday, September 19, 2010

Peace And Trust: How They Come Together

We are going to talk about how peace and trust are connected together in perfect harmony. We can't have one without the other especially in our relationship with Jesus Christ. Let me first share with you 2 experiences in my own life.

During my senior year of high school (and part of my junior year) I had some issues with depression. I had a hard time accepting myself for who I am. I have a hard time accepting all my challenges (Tourettes, Pseudo Seizures, and even a little bit of a hard time accepting Turner Syndrome). In January 2008, I went with my Youth Group to West Virgina for Central Ohio Nazarene Youth International Winter Retreat. God really spoke to me that weekend, in such a way I'll never forget or stop living off of. I completely gave God complete of my life that weekend. I had such a peace and excitement that I still get today. To have that sense of peace though, I had to trust God and believe His ways were better then mine and so much higher and that He knows what He's doing.

Every night before I had an interview I prayed long and hard and gave God complete control of what was going to happen. I just simply said "Lord, have your way." Did I get the job- no I didn't but I went into the interview with a calm having given God control and having it out of my hands and into His. I plan on doing this the night before I have an interview or anything big in my life.

There is such a peace in letting God be God and placing our lives in His hands. I know in our human nature we like to have control of our destiny and do things by ourselves but when we leave things in front of God's feet, things become soooo much better because He can do things for you that you can't even imagine, all because of His deep love for you. I don't know what is going happen in my life. There are so many things up in the air, just like your lives. I have such a peace though in my heart, and I know God is going to great in my life, real soon, I just have to get some hurdles but I'll get there. God keeps bringing such a strong peace over me and telling me that everything is going to be OK.

Peace comes in total surrender to Jesus Christ and placing ALL of our life in His hands. Peace takes trust and also having the faith to believe that God will do what He says He's going to do. It requires patience and taking God at His words and letting Him be God and you being still. Allow Him to speak to your heart. He desperately wants to show you something- no matter who you are or where you are in life. He loves you. He wants to give you a peace that surpasses all understanding. Will you trust Him and have peace in Him today. Just ask Him. He's waiting for you.

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Being Short, Living Tall

I am a very short woman- I stand at only 4 ft 8 in tall. In a society where so much focus is placed on look, so being short can be really challenging especially when you become an adult and seek competitive employment. I know I have been hindered from getting a job just because of how I look. I don't look my age at all so it can be hard for me to prove I am a capable adult.

To me, height is just like age, it means nothing! I have learned to compensate for my height in many ways through out my life, one of them is obviously how I communicate. Even when I was child, my parents were told, I get through life just be my communication. I have learned that my height doesn't define me- unless I let it. I don't feel my height impairs me in too many ways, expect in how people perceive me and how I interact with other adults.

Before my Grandmother passed away she told me that "Big things come in small packages." Even though I am short I can still be tall in other ways- where it truly counts. I have learned that looks truly aren't everything. We live in a society where we are taught how to dress and how to be beautiful. We see commercial after commercial on products that will make us look good. Well I am all for dressing well and looking good, I feel we tend to take it too an unhealthy level and lose ourselves gradually in the process.

We are such more then how we look. Stand tall in the ways that truly matter. Stand tall in love, stand tall in humility, stay tall in God, stay tall in relationships. That's what life is all about. It doesn't matter how tall we stand. It is that heart that is all that matter. That's what God looks at, we ought to do the same.

Monday, September 6, 2010

The Trail

This story is about a hike I took with my family back in 2004. Before we get there however, I need to tell you about my life the months leading it to it.

When I was 14, my life was awful. I had at the time an undiagnosed seizure disorder and no one knew what was wrong with me. I could hardly attend school and had no friends. I was scheduled to repeat 8th grade the following year. I had a depression that was MUCH more severe then the typical teenage depression. I was on the edge of taking my own life and was so close many times to actually having what it took to pull it off. On March 9, 2004 when my Grandfather committed suicide I was driven even further to the edge.

2 weeks after he committed suicide it was Spring Break and my family and I went on vacation to the Great Smoky Mountains in Tennessee. One day during the week we took a very long and strenuous hike. It was unbelievably hard on me. It was an incline all the way to the top of the mountain. The length of the hike made it that much harder. I was so tested- not only physically but emotionally as well. I wasn't sure if I could make it all the way and back. At one point I just sat down and started crying. I was so sore, so frustrated and so done. My parents gave me a little time to collect myself. I decided to keep going despite how sore I was and I made it all the way and back.

I was so proud of myself! I learned that if I just push myself a little then I can doing anything. I learned I can overcome anything that stands in my way of getting to where I want to me. I still went through hard times. to come and a long road to recovery but the lessons I learned on the trail that day I will never forget.

So, why I am telling this to you? No matter what you go through God will not leave your side. He will hold you in His hands and give you the strength to keep going. If you feel like giving up don't lose heart. God will keep you save in his arms and carry you further then you've ever been.

Monday, August 30, 2010

Ultimate Peace

We, as humans can tend to find peace in all the wrong places. We place our peace on things more what can be seen and is temporary rather then God who is unseen but eternal and full of love for us. We place our peace on even material processions and how they make us feel better, more secure about ourselves. We place our peace on friends and what they can offer to us even though we know they are just as human.

My question for us is how fully do we trust God? What if today we simply lost everything- our homes, our cars, our family and pets- everything we have lived for, gone in an instant. Would we still be able to trust to God and find peace through Him? Will we stop trusting God and try to fill the hole in our with the things of this world?

Peace doesn't come in money. It doesn't come in cars. Peace only comes by faith a God who loves us and who's ways are higher then our ways. It is ok to enjoy what we are blessed with. God wants us to enjoy life and appreciate everything provides for us. We just need to remember who it is who it is who provided what we have. That is ultimate peace. We can look back in the trials and see a God worked.

We can have peace by remembering how far we've come and what God got us through. We can see His fingerprints intertwined in our past and know He is there. When we realize we didn't do it by ourselves but we had a God carry us through there is a simple special peace to that. We didn't do it alone. We don't have to depend on ourselves. We need only really on God. Are you ready to live in ultimate peace? The choice is up to you.

Saturday, August 21, 2010

God Knows

As many of you know, I slipped on a walk in Canada and broke my left wrist in 2 parts. Something amazing happened shortly thereafter. We had no idea that I had broke anything. I was in great pain but there were no bones sticking out. Where I fell was very remote and we knew there was no way I could get help before we got home to Columbus.

I went into shock and once I came out it my family helped get me into some shade. Once they got me as comfortably as they could, a Pastor and his wife stopped by. They asked if I was ok and asked my parents if they wanted them to find help. He then told us he was a Pastor and asked us if we wanted him to pray for me and asked me what my name was. He then went onto to pray for me and then his wife. Mind you we had no idea I broke anything. In the remote area to have a Pastor and his wife there, the chances of that are pretty slim.


Some other miracles that day.


1. My sister in law Andrea was with me when I fell. She didn't leave me once not even to get my parents since I was going into shock. She knew my parents would catch on so just stayed with me.


2. I was able to hike back to the campsite.


3. I was able to go home all the way from Canada like this.


As I was taking a walk around the campground that night I realized that God was trying to teach me something. He showed me that if He cares enough when I hurt myself to place the right people in my life how much more He is there for me when I feel discouraged and want more my life. I learned He knows what He's doing- whether it being a broken wrist or looking for a job.


I had a pretty long recovery though a little shorter sine I had the surgery. I probably can't go back to COSI till 4 weeks. I know that there is a reason for this especially with all the divine intervention. I learned something I'll never forget especially when job hunting. God knows what he is doing. I have the story to prove it.